Materials: Flipchart paper, markers
The participants split into men and women. Each group gets a flipchart paper with a rectangle drawn in the middle symbolising the “box” into which our environments try to put us. The male group should write into the box the kinds of messages they received growing up to the effect of “Be a real man (Be a man!)”. The female group should write into the box the kinds of messages they received growing up to the effect of “Be a real woman (Be a woman!)”.
Also, to the left of the box they write messages they received when they tried to get out of the box, and to the right of the box they write the names they were called.
The groups then present their work in the plenary.
Suggested questions to evaluate the exercise:
- What was it like to remember these messages?
- Who sends us these messages, where do they come from?
- What are the similarities and what are the differences between these two boxes, messages and names?