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This is a good method for difficult topics that most participants may respond to very emotionally, because it provides space to listen attentively. We use it when we want to tackle “big topics” from a very personal angle, so the topics can include, for example “When did my national identity affect my life?”, “The war and me”, “I am sorry for…”
Sharing one’s own story and listening to the stories of others both require a lot of energy and patience. It is, therefore, very important to pick the right moment during the training for this exercise, and it is good to introduce people to it and encourage them to tell their stories.
It can help if the first person to tell their story is someone from the training team or someone with previous experience of this kind of exercise. In some cases, the exercise may take up more time than planned, but as a rule, it creates an atmosphere of mutual care and empathy where time is not a dominant factor. Ideally, the exercise is not moderated and participants going over their allotted time respond to discreet signals from the trainer, because if they do not respond, there is a danger that the group will become impatient and stop paying attention, which will require the trainer to intervene.
“Hot seats” are usually great at connecting, fostering better mutual understanding and developing empathy among people.