What Bothers Me About Us Is…

Exercise description

The participants split into same-gender pairs. The topic is “What bothers me about us women/men is…” First one person speaks (for about two minutes) and the other just listens. Then the roles reverse.


Discussion in the plenary

Suggested questions for the discussion:

  • Who felt uncomfortable doing this exercise? Why?
  • What did you not like about it?
  • How did you feel about what your partner was saying?
  • How would you feel about sharing the details of the conversation with a member of the other group?


An extension of the exercise

After the exchange in pairs, the participants find a partner of the opposite gender and repeat the exercise. Additional questions for discussion in the plenary: “Was it easier to talk with a member of your own group or of the other group? In the second part of the exercise, talking to a member of the other group, did you change what you said in the first part of the exercise?”


Type of exercise:


15-60 min


The exercisecan be done in small groups instead of pairs. It can also be used in the workshop on national identity, with the participants pairing up according to nationality.

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